Saturday, 20 August 2011


by Chitragupt Pariwar (Hum Kayasth) on Wednesday, September 8, 2010 at 2:48pm

Select a quiet period at the end of the day before retiring to bed

Sit in a silent place in a  comfortable posture preferably in front of the Padukaas/Srimurthy

Perform breath-watching for 5 – 10 minutes

Do a review in your mind of all:
Significant activities you engaged in since getting out of bed
People you met and interacted with during the course of the day, esp. your own family members (parents, spouse, children, others in the family)

Review the nature of your interactions
Were there any angry, impatient, arrogant, obnoxious, abrasive interactions?
Go deep the incident and see what caused the behaviour from within you
What was your state of mind?

Put yourself in the situation of the other and review the incident
Did you cause any pain or hurt, intentionally or otherwise? If yes, then internally ask for forgiveness
Did you feel hurt by the other? If yes, then internally forgive the person

What have you realized from the review?
Are you constantly seeking love and approval from the others?
Does your world fall apart when you don’t receive it as per your expectations?
Do you get hurt or do you get angry?
How do you react to the situation? Is your reaction due to the other person’s behaviour or is it because of your own craving for love and significance?

Did you experience fear during the course of the day?
Were you longing to know the future?
Does uncertainty cause you suffering?
Were there thoughts of lust?

Do you feel the need to be in control of people and situations all the time?
Do you feel that only you are important and all the rest are not?
Do you feel that only you are right and everyone else is not?
Do you find it hard to see another person’s point of view?
Does controlling others give you a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction?

Does someone else’s success or happiness upset you?
Do you feel that only you deserve it and not anyone else?
Do you start planning to bring their downfall?
Would it make you happy to see their downfall?

All of the above contemplation must be done without self-judgment or condemnation. It is only important to realize where you stand behind the daily social cover-up.

The Journey begins when you are aware of what is there and accept that it is there. Self Acceptance is the First Step; it is also the Last Step.

Finally, before you retire to sleep for the night, think of every positive incident during the day and CELEBRATE!

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